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Quoth-Raven
No Second Chances
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United Kingdom
Current Residence: Oxford
Favourite genre of music: Rock, Goth, Metal, 60's, Jazz, Classical, Musicals
Operating System: Windows 7/Android Kit Kat
MP3 player of choice: Samsung Galaxy Note 4
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Two questions I seemed to get asked a lot now is "How'd you lose the weight" and "Do you feel better for it?".

And I don't tell the whole truth when I answer. I always put it down to exercise and diet, which is true physically.  Mentally, it takes a lot to keep up the exercise and diet (which is why I've been cheating too much recently).  The truth, which I've never told anyone, is a simple hurtful comment has kept me going mentally. I went on a date with someone a couple of times and was told, "I like you, you're really nice, but I need someone I can love inside and out," (which is funny given that by their own and the media opinion they were not conventionally beautiful and should lose some weight(not my opinion), and I know they moaned afterwards chubby girls don't get some handsome trim man).

As someone who has always tried not to judge anyone on anything other than who they are, and whether they are an idiot, it was a hurtful comment. Knowing my mass is connected to how much I'm valued. 

And when people ask if I feel better, I always lie and say "yes". But the reality is, while I've gone from simply hating my body to being neutral about it, I hate myself that I've allowed the media pushed image that to be aesthetically pleasing I must fit within a certain range of weight and muscle, and have been working to that ideal. 

And now, I wonder whether I will ever like my body, just because of a hurtful comment and a media obsessed with judging people by the outside on what a few shallow people consider to be pleasing to the eye.

A lesson to be learned here, a nasty comment, no matter how big or small, may cut someone deeper than you ever see. Likewise a kind word may mean the world to someone. It's not up to someone else to tell you what is beautiful. Size, skin colour, gender, religion, fashion style, lifestyle, income, sexuality, age or disability should never be a prerequisite of love, beauty or a persons value.

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:icontsahel:
tsahel Featured By Owner 2 days ago  Hobbyist Digital Artist
thanks for the fav ! :D
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HearseGurl Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2016
Great Gallery and Love your Username! :horns:
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Quoth-Raven Featured By Owner 4 days ago  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you :D
You've got a good username to :D
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HearseGurl Featured By Owner 3 days ago
Thank You Sir and what an honour. You're Welcome! Thanks for the reply.
Keep up the awesome work too! :horns:
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Yggdrasillas Featured By Owner Jan 21, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
wow-wow Star! 
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Quoth-Raven Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
:D yay yay
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Mr-Pink-Rose Featured By Owner Jan 18, 2016
Thanks for the llama!
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Quoth-Raven Featured By Owner Jan 23, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
You're welcome :D
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BlacklightLover Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2016
I'm enjoying all of your work. You have such a talent for showing incredible beauty in the dark. :)
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Quoth-Raven Featured By Owner Jan 12, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
:D
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gusavancini Featured By Owner Jan 4, 2016  Professional Digital Artist
Thanks for the fave :D
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Quoth-Raven Featured By Owner Jan 5, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
You're welcome :D
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PirateLotus-Stock Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2015
Oooooh I know you :D
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Quoth-Raven Featured By Owner Edited Jan 1, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
You should do, I'm the one that tried to crush you with a big suitcase by speeding round corners :laughing:
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Hehehe.  I'm pretty sure the suitcase was holding me in
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Quoth-Raven Featured By Owner Jan 2, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
Lol. I've never lost a passenger...only lost one passenger so far :laughing:
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fenifire Featured By Owner Dec 20, 2015   Traditional Artist
thank you so much for the :+fav: on Sky Guidance :hug:
I'm so thrilled to see that you enjoy strange fanarts ;)
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Quoth-Raven Featured By Owner Dec 26, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
You're very welcome :D
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DigitalSummit Featured By Owner Dec 8, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Thank you for the favHug
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Quoth-Raven Featured By Owner Dec 8, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
You're welcome :D
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